The holidays often bring people together — families, friends, coworkers — and yet, even in a full room, it’s possible to feel a little separate. You rush, multitask, and try to make everything perfect, hoping that perfection will create a connection. But real belonging doesn’t come from performance. It grows quietly in the spaces where you pause, breathe, and truly listen.

Quote:
“Connection is built in the quiet moments when you stop performing and start being.” – Brené Brown

When you let yourself be fully present, conversations deepen. You notice the small things — a laugh that feels familiar, a story that lingers, a person who needed to be heard. The pressure to impress fades, replaced by something softer and far more real.

Coaching Question:
Where might you be so busy managing the moment that you’re missing the meaning in it?

Presence isn’t flashy, but it’s powerful. When you put down the phone, silence your inner to-do list, and give someone your full attention, you remind them — and yourself — that they matter. And that sense of being seen is what turns ordinary time into a feeling of belonging.

Action to Take:
At your next gathering, choose one simple act of presence: hold someone’s gaze a little longer, listen without planning your response, or just breathe and take in the moment. You may find that the truest connection happens in the quiet you once rushed past. 

Always supporting you,                                                                                                                                                                                                  Jan

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