December has a way of filling up faster than we expect. Invitations, favors, last-minute needs, and “quick” requests seem to multiply overnight. And while most of these come from people we care about, it doesn’t mean you’re obligated to say yes to everything. This is the month where setting boundaries isn’t just helpful — it’s a form of self-care and sanity protection.

Quote
“You teach people how to treat you by deciding what you will and won’t accept.” — Dr. Phil

Boundaries get a bad reputation as being rigid or cold, but healthy boundaries are an act of respect — for yourself and for others. When you are clear about what you can reasonably handle, you honor your time, your energy, and your well-being.
And here’s the truth: most people appreciate clarity, even if the answer is no. A calm, confident “I’m unable to take that on right now” is kinder than overcommitting and resenting it later.

 Coaching Question
Where in your life this month would a gentle, honest boundary make things feel lighter, calmer, or more manageable?

You don’t have to justify your boundaries or offer long explanations. A boundary is simply clarity. It’s okay to decline a request, delay a response, or choose what supports your mental and emotional health. You are allowed to protect your peace — especially in a season that asks so much of you.

Action to Take
Identify one area this week where you’ve felt stretched thin. Practice a simple boundary sentence like: “I can’t commit to that right now but thank you for thinking of me.” Use it once. Notice how much calmer you feel afterward. 

Always supporting you,                                                                                                                                                                                                  Jan

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