PERSONAL NOTE
Last month I mentioned I was on the lookout for a new pet, furry or feathered. Well, I am happy to announce that my new feathered friend is named Charlie. He is a 21-year-old Jenday Conure and has a very sweet personality. He only had one owner who passed away so I thought it was perfect to have one ole bird taking care of another one. We are settling in. I haven't attempted to give him a shower yet, I'll have to see how that goes. Here is a picture of my new roomie.
 Have a wonderful and safe holiday season no matter how you celebrate!!!
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Managing or Maxed Out? Assess Your Family’s Stress
Stress is a natural part of family life—it comes with the territory. In many ways, stress can bring out the best in us, helping us rise to challenges, become stronger parents, and nurture growth in our children. But when stress becomes overwhelming, it can pull our families in the opposite direction. Take this Family Stress Levels Test to see where your family stands. Simply circle True (T) or False (F) for each question.
Part 1: Spotting Family Stress
T or F 1. Finances are tight, and my partner and I often clash over how to handle money.
T or F 2. Arguments between adults in the house upset the kids.
T or F 3. Getting the kids to pitch in around the house feels like an uphill battle.
T or F 4. My child has been acting out or having trouble at school.
T or F 5. We tend to avoid tough conversations and hope the problems sort themselves out.
T or F 6. My partner and I frequently disagree on parenting decisions.
T or F 7. Our home feels tense—there’s a lot of arguing and frustration among family members.
T or F 8. My work hours leave me feeling overworked and drained, impacting my family time.
T or F 9. Recent major changes, like a divorce, illness, or blending families, have been tough on everyone.
T or F 10. Sitting down together as a family—whether to eat or just talk—rarely happens because life feels too busy.
Part 2: Creating a Thriving Family
T or F 1. We plan regular family time and share meals together at least once a day.
T or F 2. When we’re stuck on a problem, we’re open to seeking support—from family, community groups, or professionals.
T or F 3. I feel secure and capable in my role as a parent.
T or F 4. Everyone in the family contributes to household chores without constant nagging.
T or F 5. We acknowledge and talk openly about feelings, taking time to work through issues as they come up.
T or F 6. Family priorities come first, even when there are competing work demands.
T or F 7. Humor and fun are a natural part of our family’s daily life.
T or F 8. As a blended family, we respect and nurture original relationships while letting new ones grow at their own pace.
T or F 9. We feel financially secure enough to meet our family’s most important needs.
T or F 10. I feel connected to my kids and know what matters most to them.
If your answers leaned more toward the first part, it’s an opportunity to take meaningful steps toward creating a more harmonious and supportive family environment. By addressing challenges head-on, fostering open communication, and leaning on each other for support, your family can build deeper connections and stronger bonds. Remember, every family has the capacity to grow, heal, and thrive together. With a little effort and a lot of love, you can create a home filled with understanding, joy, and resilience—and have plenty of fun along the way! The journey starts with one small step, and the rewards are worth it.
COOL RESOURCE
I have created a handout showing 10 of the most common holiday stressors, as indicated by my clients, and several strategies to consider to alleviate the stress. You will find it on this link. I'm always available for my single sessions should you need more help. Call 619.358.0684 to schedule.
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